In June, Grindr announced it now has four and a half million users (six hundred thousand of them in the U.
S.), and that they spend an average of ninety minutes browsing every single day.
After my initial session, I only opened the app to show it to friends, scrolling through pages and pages of unappealing men in what resembled a masochistic digital-age performance-art piece titled “Why I’m Single.”In truth, though, I tried Blendr not to find love, but at the behest of a bevy of Web developers.
Around the time that Blendr launched in September, 2011, I wrote a short article declaring that the app was destined to fail.
“Blendr is generally useless, and there is a huge, untapped market for a hookup app for straights (or everyone other than gay men, really),” one of them wrote to me.
“Attitudes towards sex have shifted massively in the past decade or so, not just amongst young people.”And not just among men.
Rolland says that fifty-nine per cent of their users are women, and I decided to join their ranks to “shop” for myself.
The site suggested I check out “products” as far away as Vancouver.
Women may initiate contact less frequently, but they are comfortable reaching out first if they see a profile that appeals to them.
They call this “the deluge problem.”Both Web entrepreneurs and armchair sociologists will tell you that women are different.
Despite our commitment to baseline feminist ideals, most of us don’t like to be relationship aggressors.
” I ignore it and return my attention to the sea of forty-five-year-old men with usernames like “Drunky.” Anyone worth messaging in here? I’m seeing so many men with questionable facial hair that I double-check my profile to make sure that I haven’t accidentally indicated a preference for goatees. I scream and toss the phone to the other end of the couch, as if this action will repel the men within it.
I don’t have much time to think about it——because two new messages arrive in the chat window. Even though I know these men can’t see my exact location, I feel cornered, overwhelmed.