However, if anyone refers to me as his girlfriend in front of him, the colour drains from his face.
When I asked him if we were going out properly he just said he ‘wasn’t there yet, and wasn’t even sure if he wanted a serious relationship.’ “I don’t want to push it as I have a really nice time with him.
Online dating, and our ability to be in constant contact with everyone we know via text, email or social media make us unwilling to commit to one person, and more likely to want to hedge our bets. In an article I wrote earlier this year about modern dating, I used the example of a man I’d been sleeping with for over a year, who got cross when I referred to him as my boyfriend.
So, let me help you out with some suggestions next time you’re asked to define your non-relationship: “Well Gran, it’s funny you should ask, there is someone on the scene, we’re: sleeping together/seeing each other/dating/friends with benefits/friends (apparently the same as friends with benefits, but twice as infuriating) /having an affair (it’s unfortunate when, after 12 dates you discover that his reticence to define your relationship is down to his previously unmentioned wife) or wasting each other’s time until something better comes along.” I agree that technology – evil, brain-sapping technology – might play its part here. When I asked for further clarification as to what we were doing he said “We’re friends - you’re my friend.” Hilariously, when the article in question came out, a couple of my other exes read the piece and took credit for that particular quote (hint: it was none of them), which is a sorry example of quite how often I've gone down that particular road. My new rule is, eight weeks – if someone won’t call it after eight weeks, then I’m out of there.
“I’ve never willingly called any of the women I’ve been out with my girlfriends – even the ones I’ve lived with.
It’s like when others see that I’m alone, they I must be lonely, and that another person’s presence is my only savior. And okay, every now and then I do feel a little bit lonely.
But then again, everyone does at some point in their life, even those in committed relationships.
I’ve even seen couples get remarried after many years being divorced who are now happier than ever! This is a pretty fun topic for me personally because I’m married to my high school ex-boyfriend, and my college ex-boyfriend is my business partner, so I guess you could say I’m a real ex-back success story!
It is definitely possible to get your ex back and make the relationship last, but it doesn’t just happen because you want it to. But usually, the rule is: if it didn’t work, it won’t work… To increase your chances for success, you need to arm yourself with the right information.