I knew I wouldn’t have to deal with devastatingly long deployments at sea or constant relocation so his military service wasn’t a potential hinderance, but a celebrated past accomplishment.
I didn’t foresee his time in uniform as a consistently working cog in our future relationship but, then again, I had never dated a veteran before.
You have to be able to see the person as an individual with an identity that isn’t determined solely by their profession, otherwise you are setting yourself up for failure.
Instead of helping your boo to study for a bio test, your helping them study for the promotion board and making sure they have the Soldiers Creed and the NCO Creed perfectly memorized.
He even flew me out to where he was during the spring semester and that was the greatest amount of effort I had ever seen from a guy to spend time with me.
Truthfully, dating someone in the military is no different from dating a civilian.
If I met an interested man who happened to be an active member of the military, that wouldn’t necessarily exclude him from consideration, but I would be hesitant to get involved on any sort of serious level. He served in the United States Navy for six years but had been out of the military for a significant amount of time before I sat next to him in on what would be our last first date.Growing up with my dad in the Army, I have always felt that I got enough of the military lifestyle – and then I ended up dating someone in the military anyway.Although there are many benefits to being in the military, it comes with many sacrifices and it isn’t for everyone.They have trained together and bled together and cried together and celebrated together and done things that I cannot possibly imagine, all together, and that kind of bond is something only they can (and should) share.I’ve learned that the knowledge he gained traveling the world is just as – if not more – valuable than the knowledge I gained in a college classroom.