Developed in 1942 by psychology researchers Isabel Briggs Myers and her mother Katharine Briggs, the system is based on a set of four binary personality distinctions — extraversion (E) vs. Thing is, Myers-Briggs is kinda bullshit, and pretty useless when it comes to choosing a romantic match.“Myers-Briggs is infamous for being the least valid, widely used personality test there is,” says David Funder, psychology professor at the University of California, Riverside. It’s fun to discover you’re an explorer and talk about it with other people, in the same way it’s fun to discuss the latest shows on Netflix. Those traits categorize people as one of 16 different personality types, each with its own four-letter code (ISTP and ENTJ, for example) and corresponding title (such as “virtuoso” and “commander,” respectively).Placing your Myers-Briggs type on your dating profile can actually hurt your chances scoring dates, Kay says.Prospective dates may make a negative assumption based upon your Myers-Briggs type, when the truth is that humans are far more complex than the system seems to indicate.
That night, kind of shaken up by events, we had real talk. With my heart in my throat, our relationship was terminated suddenly—and sharply. Instead of leaving my MBTI revelations to the wayside, I clung to them even harder. In my sadness, I quickly became obsessed, scrolling through forums late at night, scavenging for answers. How could I ever be happy with an INFP, an ESTJ, or (heaven forbid) an ISTJ?
Yep, according to this self-reporting quiz, I was now an INFJ. While a quarter-life crisis didn’t exactly ensue, I realized something for the first time: It’s just a test.
It’s a framework to use as a tool, not a forecaster that sees all and dictates your fate.
In reality, they’re independent: we have three decades of evidence that if you like ideas and data, you can also like people and emotions.”As such, Jessie Kay, CEO of The Real Matchmaker, a professional dating service in L.
A., says she never uses Myers-Briggs when assessing and pairing clients.