I would agree with that, though for many of us, it feels like it’s too late, that the damage has already been done.
We skipped an important developmental step along the way, missed out on marriage, and for some of us, it’s too late to have children, too.
It was, essentially, this: that Christian guys hid behind God-excuses rather than taking dating seriously – or even try it at all. We date, I think, less casually, or less prolifically, particularly in our teens.
Dan emailed me again a year after his non-break-up email to apologise for the hurt he’d caused. I think there would be value in Josh Harris doing the same – in saying, perhaps, that though he isn’t sorry he wrote , he wishes the culture it engendered hadn’t veered to such an extreme and that the book hadn’t come to be prized so dogmatically.
He was well-intentioned and very young when he wrote his book, and I doubt he could have had any idea of the impact it would have on the Christian world.
That’s not something a kickstarted documentary about the evolution of his dating theology can somehow resolve for us.
A bride is walking down the aisle toward her beloved on their wedding day.