Women, on the other hand, have narrowed down their lists primarily to non-negotiables: growing in the Lord, bathing regularly. When getting to know a guy, I like to hint at my weight loss journey (truly a lifelong battle — I remember being on a self-induced diet when I was only 8), because it seems the only kind of tolerable fat person is the one who’s not okay being fat, the one who despises it as much, if not more, than everyone else.
I’m sure much of what I’m writing will feel familiar to others struggling with weight, regardless of their faith walk.
Part of this has to do with basic demographics of the church today: For men, it’s a buyer’s market.
With the surplus of godly, talented, accomplished Christian women, men can afford to be pickier, holding tightly to standards of physical attraction, sense of humor, similar interests, all the way to taste in coffee. Here’s why we chose to give birth to black triplets.] And if you are overweight, you can’t remain that way.
Gluttony, however, only seems to be a problem when it results in displeasing physical appearances. But being overweight can be caused by a whole host of things (plummeting metabolisms, hormone imbalance, thyroid problems, bad genes or even socioeconomic considerations).This problem only seems to be magnified by another byproduct of conservative Christian culture: the pressure to be married.As a single woman, I have often felt like an outlier in the church.But what’s particular to more traditional believers is the conviction that my weight reveals some evidence of spiritual trouble. Therefore, to be fat is a sin because many believe to be fat is to be a living, breathing testament to overindulgence or lack of self-restraint.To be fat is to be a bad witness for Christ — or so I’ve heard some pastors preach.