by Yasmin Mogahed Reprinted from Suhaib As-salamu `alaykum brother, Thank you for the honest question you asked regarding dating. First, you have pointed out that you live in a society where dating is the norm.While I understand and sympathize with that struggle, it is important to make clear that just because something is the norm in one’s society, does not justify participating in it.He was born there too, but when he was 3, they all moved to the US.Growing up, when it came to dating, relationships and girls, Shaikh would experience one thing at home, another outside."The only evidence that they had that the other person existed before their marriage night was simply a small black-and-white picture and the good wishes of a couple of relatives," he says."That's all they knew." Shaikh's parents are Muslim and they lived in India at the time of their wedding back in the 1970s.You set your boundaries with your partner." I also heard from an Iranian American, a Lebanese, a Moroccan and a Bangladeshi.They each had different experiences, depending on the family, culture and the country where they come from.
"[But] by the time it comes to the age of trying to get married, then our parents are like, well, why aren’t you getting married, we want grandchildren ... We’re not allowed to date, we’ve been separated, we haven’t developed friendships," she says.
Irshad, the young woman who grew up in Illinois says she's all for it.
"That's a really promising solution where young, Muslim Americans can register to use these apps and then they can connect with each other on their own. In other words, she says, they are the ones making decisions about their future spouses, instead of a match-making grandmother or auntie. Shaikh recalls a conversation with a Muslim man who had signed up on 24
There were about 30 students and a couple of women wore colorful headscarves.
Muslim chaplain Celene Ibrahim Lizzio spoke about the "spiritual aspects of finding a spouse" — of asking God for guidance in finding love.