You may have fallen into the habit of dressing in a slovenly manner, or gained a lot of weight in the course of your marriage or your grief.However, when you’re out meeting new people, you want to be well dressed and in shape.(Some higher-end department stores offer this service free of charge.) Or ask a close friend to be brutally honest about what your ideal makeover would include. Countless widows and widowers have met men and women of quality and intelligence online.
“Mort had been a hunter and had promised to teach me how to shoot,“ she says, “but we never got around to it.” When a shooting range opened near her home, Mary decided to learn what she had missed with husband.
Many widowers and widows come to the dating table with a sizeable list of qualities they’re looking for.
However, it’s not a good idea to be looking for Mr. Perfect, as you’re likely to be disappointed, Schwartz says.
In particular, avoid over-reminiscing about your old life; it may make your new acquaintance feel excluded. You may long to clone your lost love, but it’s unlikely you’ll ever meet an exact replica of the one you were with. After all, the person you met at age 25 changed over a lifetime, and so did you.
Now you’re in a different stage, with a redrawn horizon.