He says he wants this relationship to work and that these are just speed bumps. He’s in a vortex and is likely in survival mode as a result.He is committed to making it through rough patches. It sounds like that prior to all of this ramping up you were both doing a good job of meeting each other’s needs and the communication was good. Unfortunately, when we get in survival mode, all of that can go out the window.It sounds to me like he realized that he wanted to make the absolute most of this one precious day which to him meant not only spending time with you but another friend and taking care of his own business.
After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads. As a teen I went out with this guy over a decade ago, just once. Just over a month ago we found each other online and began talking, and made plans to catch up over dinner.We could talk for hours about ourselves, our lives, our ideas and that was when we really felt close. I was more busy with work than he was at the time and I was amazed at how attentive and excited about the relationship he was… He has such limited free time and such an inflexible schedule that our time together is either sleeping, eating or getting little things done.I have tried to be really understanding about this transition for him and make an effort to let him have space when he needs it, support when he needs it and just fall asleep next to me when he needs it.I am feeling like I have to compromise a lot for this relationship which I don’t mind but when an issues comes up that makes me feel unappreciated and then I can’t even talk about it with him, I feel terrible.For example, we had planned to spend his one day off together but that morning he realized he had to do a bunch of things, needed to meet a friend and needed some time for himself b/c he was feeling overwhelmed so he suggested we just meet up later for dinner.