The other day she came home from school kind of asking me to go to the movies with a boy. By the time I was 17 I was involved with a man, not a boy, and I knew it was ok because my mom let me - and she told me she understood what it was like to be in love, and she didn't want to forbid me to see him because then I'd be sneaking out to see him anyway.... He turned out to be a very stand up guy who married me and now we have a wonderful life together and the age difference doesn't matter now in our 30s....
He goes to High School and she is in Middle School. By the end of the summer I can just say that I'm glad I was strong enough to say no as many times as I had to - not all girls will be able to do that, and not all boys will take no for an answer!
haha) parents have to make decisions for their teenagers that are going to make the teen very angry and feel like their parents don't love them, but once they are grown with their own children is when they will see their parents' wisdom and really appreciate the boundaries they had set in their lives.
Good luck on this - I am definitely not looking foward to the teen years, if I could keep them babies forever I would!!
She would have saved me a lot of emotional stress in my teenage years if she would have had more age appropriate rules and expectations. Like I told my daughter "i'm still waiting for the book i was suppose to get PARENTING 101 from the hospital " HA HA. Well I talked to my daughter and told her there will not be "DATING" until she's 16. The whole thing started with a movie, and then hanging out at each others houses while mom's were home, and our moms' were friends too. Thank GOD there is a place like this so parents can help other parents. I had my first boyfriend at 15 and he really liked to push the envelope (if you know what I mean) when we were alone.The thing about dating is that it's not about good grades or how nice a kid is, it's that once you start getting physical, it's easy to get more and more physical, but teenagers just don't have the life experience to realize the emotional attachment and stress that comes along with that.I happen to agree that dating is for finding a spouse, and teenagers are just not in that point in their lives yet - mind you I wasn't raised to think this, I think this because of my experiences, and I will try my best to teach my children this.